Delayed gratification

Children are the product of a foundation that was laid by their parents. They become all that they are shaped to be, whether it was a good or bad influence. I don't think there is good or bad parenting because we all have different views as to how parenting should be like. My good could be your bad and vice versa. We are at a stage where we are faced with a generation that is running at a fast pace, everything is done without deep thinking, everything is done quickly.....why is that?

Children do not really believe in the saying, "all good things come to those who wait". They want everything to be done quickly and they also expect quick results too. This is why we are faced with a generation that makes a lot of mistakes because their parents don't teach them what is called "delayed gratification", whereby you teach a child that before you get that thing you want so bad, you have to do your chores, before you play video games you must complete your homework first, you will get that phone you like provided you save up to 30% of the money. In this way you teach your child to be responsible. Your child will know that if want good things in life, you have to work hard. At the end of the day you send out a responsible and sensible child to the world.

HIS MOM IS RACIST!

A few months ago I met an amazing guy, we clicked from the word go. He treated me like a princess, we fell in love. He told me his story, he was found in a rubbish bin, his mother had abandoned him. Luckily he was adopted by good people , they raised him well I must add.........so he than decided to let me meet his parents(had I known, I wasn't going to agree to meet them).

As I walked in the way his mom looked at me with disgust, I was crushed, I knew she hated me. I felt unwelcome in that house, although my boyfriend tried to make relax, it wasn't working. Days after that meeting I realised that my boyfriend was becoming distant, I asked him about it and he just dropped a bombshell on me...."my parents don't like you okay, they are disappointed that I'm dating a black girl". Amazing isn't it?? 20 years later.....race is still an issue. Funny thing is, my boyfriend is black much darker than me, what I don't understand is , how did they accept him? Or maybe since they raised him, he's suddenly white/coloured?

Anyway we had to break up because every time my boyfriend and I spoke on the phone his mom constantly shouted at him and threatened to kick him out, like really now? In the 20 years I have lived on earth, this is my first encounter of racist behaviour I've ever experienced. Its sad that his mother is still imprisoning herself, all I can say is if she hates me, than she hates her own son as well because he is BLACK like me!

My hometown

This is the area I grew up in, lived here since 1999 and since then nothing has changed no service delivery whatsoever. We've never had any protests , I dont know why, I mean in all the neighbouring townships they have protested for service delivery and it looks like fun because those people know how to get down. 

On a serious note though , most counsellors that have been elected used to live here as well and once they take the positions they move away to better areas, leaving us behind in the dump that we live in. How does one take up a leadership position when they know very well that they are not capable of delivering. It pains me that in 2014 we still walk on dusty streets 20 years after democracy. Its sad .

Teenage Pregnancy

Teenage pregnancy is a huge issue in SA. I personally have been around teen mothers, at school and at church, what I noticed that is common in all these girls is that they all have the same story...."the condom broke", we all know that's not entirely true. As young people we all have this tendency to make excuses as to why things go wrong or why things don't happen. We are all raised in a time where our parents , leaders, teachers and pastors make excuses for everything hence we all follow in that path. Questions are put out to the government as to why 
the pregnancy rate is so high, which is a good question I must add, although I think its posed to the wrong people. Personally I think it starts at home, parents should be asked "what are you doing to ensure that your child doesn't fall pregnant?" . In most homes parents are too strict and in that they alienate their kids, they also ashamed to talk about sex which is the biggest mistake majority of parents make- if you don't talk to your child than who do you expect to speak to them? Parents are afraid to talk about sex, prevention and protection,  which must change , education should start at home.....if anyone should be blamed for the teenage pregnancy rate , its the parents especially mothers and guardians who are females because they are the ones who should teach these girls how to be women. If that doesn't happen than we'll continue to have grannies in their thirties.

As a born free in South Africa during this sad time that we mourn the loss of a legend Nelson Mandela , its quite sad how the youth especially the one's who were born after 1994 are giving out comments that tears me up inside, how ungrateful can one be as to making silly comments about someone who dedicated his life to the struggle so that you and I can be free to be whatever and do whatever, YES! he does deserve the publicity that some people complain about I mean he did not only think about his family, he thought about me and you as well, the least one can do is pay your last respects he deserves that much. R.I.P Nelson Mandela.